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19. Boston. Printmaking Student.

All up on Your Thighs: fuck queer, i'm a lesbian?

fuzzyhorns:

veganfemme:

galesofnovember:

ineffableshe:

being on tumblr has made me increasingly reluctant to identify as queer. instead, i have become increasingly drawn to reclaiming “lesbian” & “dyke.” because you know what? calling oneself a lesbian shouldn’t be considered passe or…

it’s interesting to me to read what seem to be cisgender people debating the meaning of queer to them. for me as a transperson, it seems to mean something different. i also see implicit and explicit slut-shaming stuff going on, which is sort of discomfiting to me.

personally, naming queerness to me was naming how i related to a theoretical and political struggle that involved my kind—trannies, shape-shifters, fucking freaks—my kind, my own kind, my beloved kind. it also meant an admission that it’s more complex to define the genders and sexes of other people than binary-sex-defined orientations work. i could, i suppose, say i am bisexual just so others could parse me away from the sluttiness or “edginess” of queer. but for me, that’d mean the erasure of bodies and souls i absolutely loved, came inside, had cum inside me, made breakfasts for, straightened coat collars for, put a pack of rainbow nat shermans in a cheap valentine’s day heart-shaped box for. it’d mean i’d be saying they were something they were not.

for, how do you say you are a lesbian or a gay about your gender neutral partner? or your genderqueer partner? for some, i know the label is comfortable. but for others, queer is the bed we laid in, made love in, and slept in. if you don’t identify that way, don’t. but don’t tell queers what it means or what’s wrong with it, either.

then again, aren’t we all used to those phrases by now? isn’t it time to speak about it in another way? that’s what i found in queerness: my family, my home. and you’re always welcome in both.

(via thunderboltjackson)

5 months ago 180 notes
  1. itspattybitch reblogged this from ineffableshe and added:
    Dyke sounds powerful. I
  2. paperandcloth reblogged this from ineffableshe and added:
    Just… for reasons. Also,...I’m in Bloomington, Indiana,
  3. ghaweyriao reblogged this from mikroblogolas and added:
    people say ‘don’t label yourself.’ It’s an attempt...cut you off from any sort
  4. closetospring reblogged this from mikroblogolas and added:
    yourself!”s…
  5. mikroblogolas reblogged this from saltmarshhag and added:
    found it, and it’s so great I have...when I first ventured onto sites for lesbian, bi, and...
  6. danikathelesbrarian reblogged this from limpwristmagicfist and added:
    This is a lot to process. But yes, I totally feel pressure to identify as queer (or not identify at all). I understand...
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  9. fuzzyhorns reblogged this from ineffableshe and added:
    i think we’ve just misunderstood each other then. i don’t want to police you or your identity. nor do i want to see an...
  10. ineffableshe reblogged this from fuzzyhorns and added:
    I honestly don’t understand how you took any...are sluts. If there are any specific...
  11. fuzzyhorns reblogged this from pomme-poire-peche and added:
    since i put forward none of the arguments you accuse me of, at least i have nothing to defend.
  12. pomme-poire-peche reblogged this from fuzzyhorns and added:
    Why are you talking about academic currents in...woman identifies her
  13. fuzzyhorns reblogged this from ineffableshe and added:
    i tried to use fairly open-ended language, and that seems to have failed. it seemed to me certain other things were...
  14. fuzzyhorns reblogged this from saltmarshhag and added:
    hmm, i’m not sure how to say that it’s not about asking people to be sexually available. it’s not a big concern to me,...
  15. saltmarshhag reblogged this from fuzzyhorns and added:
    actually i’m trans...this conversation....am not,...
  16. ineffableshe reblogged this from fuzzyhorns and added:
    No thus far in this thread has shamed other people for identifying as “queer.” When I wrote this original post, I was...
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  21. daffodilsinthrees reblogged this from fuzzyhorns and added:
    I have so many feelings about this but a lot of this made me cry good wonderful healing tears.